5 Dinero Dramas That Could Ruin Your Relationship

We grow up with families who love novelas. 📺 And in true novela fashion there can be un peligro between you and your bae. 😱 It’s not about “una venenosa” or about  “un desgraciado.” It’s money. 💰

You want to bring home someone your family approves of. You think about your compatibility in the bedroom. But what about your financial compatibility? 🧐 Our relationship with money is just like a romantic one. 🤭 And if the three of you are not having a healthy relationship, your finances can turn your sweet love story into “Un Drama de Dinero”. 😖🙅🏽‍♀️

Here are 5 money issues that could ruin your relationship. 

Meet Raúl and Raquelita. They’re about to have a full season of soap opera scandal all because they are dodging the topic of money.  Here’s how to avoid the mistakes of our favorite “Amigos.” 💪🏽👇🏽

Issue 1: La Financial Infidelity

A relationship is a partnership. 🤝 If you had a business partner and he spent 10k dollars you’d tell him to kick it to the curb. 😤 But in romance it’s more complicated. We can sometimes keep secrets because we don’t want to get into fights. But then you are cheating on your partner with your secret spending stress, credit card debt, or your secret stash of cash. 🤭

Issue 2: Being Too Controlling or Judgmental

The opposite is being too involved in your partner’s spending. 😕 You are both adults. You should be able to spend your hard earned cash how you want. But you also need healthy spending habits and a solid picture of your finances.  If someone, like Raúl, becomes too controlling or judgemental it can actually make the problem worse. 😫 A lot of money issues have to do with your emotions. Someone making you feel stuck or bad about yourself might send you right to retail therapy. 

Issue 3: Not Talking About Your Finances Regularly

You cannot let your money become the elephant in the room. Financial decisions need to be made as a couple. 👩‍❤️‍👩👨‍❤️‍👨👩‍❤️‍👨 Or you should at least be checking in. If you are boo-ed up it’s important to know what’s happening with each other…financially. 💵 You don’t want to be dragging them on dates they can’t afford. You also don’t want to ignore really important decisions because you don’t want to have an awkward conversation. It will save you an even more uncomfortable conversation with your bill collectors. 

Issue 4:  Refusing to Compromise

Pero like…if you can’t compromise how are you in a relationship?!? 🤔It can be hard because you both have your own lives. Your man may not get why you need to get your nails done once a month. Duh, it’s to stay sane. Your girl may not understand why you need the pricey razors. But then she complains when you’re all scratchy. Compromise is key. But to do that you have to be completely honest, open and try and make decisions that help you both. 😌

Issue 5: Mismatched Financial Goals

If one of you wants to go to Puerto Vallarta and one of you wants to go to Puerto Rico where will you end up? 🧐 🏝 It doesn’t matter because you will be alone. Part of any relationship is planning for the future. You both need to have a clear understanding of your financial goals. 📈 And those goals should fit together. You can’t get a house, a new car, or travel the world sin lana. 

These are a few of the major money mistakes that can turn your sweet dream of a relationship into a sour nightmare. Money should not lead to heart break or headaches.

Source: https://www.fool.com/the-ascent/banks/articles/5-money-issues-that-could-ruin-your-relationship